#212 And you are?…
Monday 2nd July, 2007
How do I respond to someone’s friend request if I have no idea, or recollection of who they are?
First and foremost you never ask directly ‘who are you’. That is the height of rudeness, making not only yourself look less than sophisticated or lacking in social refining but also completely undermines the person’s potential significance to you.
Such a scenario is also likely to result in a terse, or embarrassed response from the sender – they are upset as you have no recollection or clue as to whom they may be, and you look stupid from not remembering.
But your a busy and popular person you cannot be expected to remember everyone, especially with some of the tenuous connections that can come through Facebook.
Facebook is a networked place, chances are one of your friends, or friends of friends will ‘know’ this person. You can search their ‘friends’ list and see if there’s any commonalities. Another tactic is to check their group lists and see if you belong to any of the same forums, perhaps they are responding to an intellectual post you have placed.
Otherwise ‘delete’ and go. That is the beauty of Facebook you do not necessarily have to explain your actions and can tailor make your social connections to include only those who are worth remembering after all!