#310 Does it count if it’s not sent by Cupid?
Monday 4th February, 2008
I’m in a new relationship. New enough that they are yet to meet the parents, but established enough that we are not just ‘dating’. Question is can I send a Valentines over Facebook when I know my ex is going to be ‘watching’.
Well one word springs to mind: Cheap. And if you were my ‘new’ boy/girl friend I possibly would not be entirely pleased with your ‘grand gesture’ of just a Facebook poke or valentine themed gift. However, things are new and exciting in the first part of a relationship, and things are still very much in that honeymoon phase with Facebook. So one tactic would be to cover all bases; a Facebook love token as well as some other form of ‘from cupid’ gesture. Of course where your particular dilemma is made more complex is the associated ‘ex’ watch surveillance.
Taking account of someone else’s feelings is admirable, particularly with the way relationship ‘matters’ spring up seemingly of their own accord through various news and mini feeds. My guess is that the ex is already expecting some form of romance based token to e exchanged between you and your new interest. Moreover, it may surprise you to learn that they already have been ‘watching’ your various moves from flirtatious wall postings, pokes and gifts. The fact that on the 14th these will take place on a particular day intended for those ‘in love’ will no doubt be bittersweet and depending on your moves. If say you just through a sheep at your new partner, well it is unlikely that your ex is going to feel either displeased or out of place, possibly more relieved and happy that they are not on the receiving end of such actions. Of course they could just be waiting for you to fall flat on your face in the world of social networks and conveniently rush in and ‘pick up the pieces’. Another line is that they really do not give a damn and are far too engaged with their own new romance that does not involve sheep throwing and some real lip-locking action at a suitably romantic location near by.
At a stretch you could give up on what your ex thinks and feels, and concentrate on how you want to ‘reveal’ and have fun with your new love. Or download the Zoost or FlirtWithMe applications and make out you have more hits than Cupid’s arrow…
How ever your day pans out; Happy Valentines Day!Tweet