#716 Facebook affection is making me queasy
Friday 6th February, 2009
My better half and I were just perusing Facebook and we came across some graphic ‘public displays of affection’ between the couple. They write wall-posts to each other that make us both feel a little queasy. Do you think that’s weird? It seems like private message material to me, but maybe I’m just a square…
Just as a couple is fulfilled by a shared love for one another with mutually appreciated exchanges and private in-jokes to display affection, here we hit a potential paradigm. Public exclamations of love can be amusing and comforting and yet they can also come across as a little nauseating. Have you seen the pink and red paraphernalia adorning the walls or shops, bars, restaurants lately? To find someone so irresistible that every opportunity to show and share that love, love, love, to carry this through in the company of others can be a sweet and an endearing way for a couple to behave. It can also be damn well annoying.
In my experience single friends quickly become sickened by overly public displays of affection – particularly with ‘new’ couples who seem particularly keen to establish their ‘we’re really into each other and have seen each other naked’ status. On Facebook after the ‘in a relationship’ status is confirmed, boradcast and shared with networks, then perhaps this is the time to take a step back and keep exchanges of the more intimate kind private. After all it really is quite vulgar to divulge all you want to get up to on a Friday night with your lover across Wall posts for all to read. Austen’s Mr Darcey would not approve. Perhaps a public ticker-tape of exchanges is all a part of the anticipation and excitement. Whatever, leave me out of it. Thank you.
As part of a smug couple unit it is easy to mistakeningly assume through rapid Wall post exchanges that it only your intended and yourself who are privy to such communication. Easy when caught up in the ‘romantic’ and spontaneous moment of it all. But STOP. This is not like texting. YOUR FRIENDS CAN READ THESE. Plus the option of ‘see wall-to-wall’ will make it a struggle for friends to keep down their lunch if the two of you get too carried away.
Something to do to make things a little more pleasant all round is to let the suspense build through only private messages and/or coded public posts. Although you may want to think long and hard about a proper code. The, ‘I’m thinking of poking you my little pokey-wooky’ can easily be translated.
In reply to your ‘sqaure’ observation, the degree to which such revelations continue will I am sure be a continued source of amusement. With Valentines only a mere one weekend around the corner, a reminder that romance is sweet is welcome, but graphic expose’s have no mystery or sophistication behind them and leave us all feeling sqaure.Tweet