#574 An overwhelmingly attractive twentysomething lady
Thursday 8th October, 2009
I have been introduced, through mutual friends, to an overwhelmingly attractive twentysomething lady and I am more than eager to ask her out. I am nervous as the thought of her could be too good to be true. I find myself on her Facebook page all the time just so I can look at her and see what she is up to. But after reading your ‘Hot gal, cold to the touch’ post it occured to me that my infatuation is more than just a visual thing. I like her mind as much as her body and want to get both into my bed.
How should I make my first move? I can’t read her. I think that she wants more than just a fling and I want to be more intimate with her. So far the pace of our encounter has been fun, but can it go anywhere. Should I feel this way?…
From UM, Manchester
I am almost tempted to say ‘oh get over yourself’, but then I swiftly reminded myself that we have all lusted and admired someone from afar. I admire that you are wanting to stoke her fire for more than a fling. I hope you’ve changed the sheets on the bed and put a suitably interesting book on the night stand to engage at a convenience both her body and mind. But why oh why should she fall for you? What do you have to offer her? In terms of first moves I would make it creative and original. The best appear as spontaneous, but executed to excellent standards. One example that springs immediately to my mind was when a close friend of mine, who was leaving for Australia, organised a surprise day out. He had taken time off work to do everything Australian our day culminated in an Aussie themed winter picnic (it was November) with fireworks, wine tasting, boomeranging and a battle with the duna (Google if you are not familiar with this particular Aussie terminology).
I expect she would welcome your woo’eth indications and has developed a balanced attitude to your attempts to engage her body and mind. If she’s as savvy as you make out it is unlikely that she will be willing to fall for a simple and obvious game plan. So leave the Facebook poking alone. I think your real anxiety lies with the fact that you have fallen harder than you had intended and secretly you want her to be poking at more than just your Face/book for just the one time.
For you to reach the next stage you could show that you are being considerate and taking it one step at a time (*yawn*). Or to hell with the self-reflection and next time you’re both caught in the rain there’s nothing more romantic than a lingering kiss.Tweet