Proper Facebook Etiquette

#576 A battleground of sexual ego

Thursday 15th October, 2009

Dear Mariann,
Facebook has recently become a battleground of sexual ego. My girlfriend is very free in her updates and is comfortable with parading herself to her friends. Photos and the like. I worry about how to behave, what to do, where to do it, how I should be, where should I be…

Am I just too naff and old fashioned. I like to show that I care when we are together. Given that you are expert on all things etiquette, is she making a mistake behaving this way. Or should I break out and try something new?

I was once going out with a charming man who was always suited and booted in black tie attire, including gloves. I am a fan of suits and well-heeled men so you can see my initial attraction. However, when our encounters consisted only of mine (and also his(?!)) admiration of his elegance I began to tire of his formality. He looked so uptight one evening, that my mischievous little whisper into his ear, ‘Perhaps you’ll allow me to loosen your collar…’ *poignant pause* was met with a flicker of alarm across his brow and a swift hail of ‘taxi!’ that made a car appear as out of nowhere – such is the advantage of wearing white gloves I discovered.

Needless to say we didn’t encounter one another again. But I did find new respect for his high-man maintenance if only for a recommendation of what washing powder to keep whites whiter than white. Now how does this relate to you? Well you describe a growing discomfort with your girlfriend’s liberal attitude on Facebook. I suggest that you encourage these in-person instead. Be a man! Take charge! Explain that her pictures, while charming I’m sure, could be made more charming were they shared just between the two of you.

Then, to keep to your side of the liberated bargain, rather than keeping that tight upper lip in a line, loosen your collar and enjoy getting your gloves dirty. I know a good washing powder.

5 Responses to “#576 A battleground of sexual ego”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Just read the comment about tutor hitting on students. This goes on at my U and especially amongst the gay staff and students. My flatmate is gay and his Facebook is full of things that a couple of gay lecturers have posted. Suppose it is OK as we are all grown up here.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I think my tutor is hitting on me at Facebook. He keeps up a stream of pokes and posts that are jokey but more sexual. He does not act that way in class but my friends are joking about us because they see what he is doing. I don't know what to do as I can't tell him to push off as he marks my work.Oh he is too old too married and too fat to be of interest in THAT way!!!!!!

  3. Leo says:

    Do you date Marian? I don't wear gloves but own a range of hats you might like.

  4. Dr Mariann Hardey says:

    @Chucky, name to one side, that is just creepy.

  5. Chucky says:

    MySpace is a better place to put out than Facebook. Anyone for Adult Friend Finder BTW

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