#283 A veritable bon viveur
Dear Mariann,
My daughter does not like me friending her friends. I have just made a Facbook account and know I’ll have more friends than her but I want to see whats going on. Great to see that I’m so much better than those I was at school with BTW.
From Ian in reply to post #282 it’s just a FFAD
Most certainly she does not Ian! Your daughter is right to be concerned, who after-all would want daddykins finding out all that she had been up to. For shame Ian, I can tell by your tone that you know precisely the potential pain and humiliation you are set to cause.
There are, then, two course of action from here on in: The first is to remain sniggering behind the digital headlines; the second is of the non-sniggering kind and deleted account action. It is only fair to warn you at this stage that every/any single attempt to ‘know’ your child/ren through social networks is a less than sensible course of action. They – your child, is likely to be humiliated; then you – the adult, is going to be charged with tmi-obsessive compulsive disorder (too-much-information-ocd). Yes, you can be ‘friends’, but you will never be Friends on Facebook without some re-jiggery of hers, or both your Privacy Settings. I suggest a ‘limited profile’ status for both your accounts. Then you can both see each other, but not appear too much in one another’s ‘faces’.
Note also that every attempt to friend one of her friends (a subtle poke, message, wall post, invitation to be a Pirate me-hearty) will make her snigger at you, nobody laughs more than at an parents desperate bid to be ‘down with his kids’. However, I do find myself speculating whether there may be a middle ground, given your competitiveness and intention to appear as ‘so much better’ than those you were at school with. This is the reason that the rest of us ARE on Facebook/ I’m-so-better-than-who-I-went-to-school-with-book. Perhaps you should de-daughter your offspring and promote the image of successful of the Bon Viveur. Then both you and her can retain a dignity as you cling to lost ‘yoff’ and she gains other friends who you won’t approve.
Ahem, a longer and more considered reply to follow in my next post.