Proper Facebook Etiquette

#883 A veritable bon viveur

Tuesday 24th August, 2010

Dear Mariann,

My daughter does not like me friending her friends. I have just made a Facbook account and know I’ll have more friends than her but I want to see whats going on. Great to see that I’m so much better than those I was at school with BTW.

From Ian in reply to post #282 it’s just a FFAD

Most certainly she does not Ian! Your daughter is right to be concerned, who after-all would want daddykins finding out all that she had been up to. For shame Ian, I can tell by your tone that you know precisely the potential pain and humiliation you are set to cause.

There are, then, two course of action from here on in: The first is to remain sniggering behind the digital headlines; the second is of the non-sniggering kind and deleted account action. It is only fair to warn you at this stage that every/any single attempt to ‘know’ your child/ren through social networks is a less than sensible course of action. They – your child, is likely to be humiliated; then you – the adult, is going to be charged with tmi-obsessive compulsive disorder (too-much-information-ocd). Yes, you can be ‘friends’, but you will never be Friends on Facebook without some re-jiggery of hers, or both your Privacy Settings. I suggest a ‘limited profile’ status for both your accounts. Then you can both see each other, but not appear too much in one another’s ‘faces’.

Note also that every attempt to friend one of her friends (a subtle poke, message, wall post, invitation to be a Pirate me-hearty) will make her snigger at you, nobody laughs more than at an parents desperate bid to be ‘down with his kids’. However, I do find myself speculating whether there may be a middle ground, given your competitiveness and intention to appear as ‘so much better’ than those you were at school with. This is the reason that the rest of us ARE on Facebook/ I’m-so-better-than-who-I-went-to-school-with-book. Perhaps you should de-daughter your offspring and promote the image of successful of the Bon Viveur. Then both you and her can retain a dignity as you cling to lost ‘yoff’ and she gains other friends who you won’t approve.

8 Responses to “#883 A veritable bon viveur”

  1. Anonymous says:

    What about a situation with an adult child and parent – a mother who is using Facebook to stalk her daughter by looking at all of her “recent activity” feeds and even commenting within her daughter’s friend’s profiles/posts when the mother is not friends with them? (These friends have the particular posts set for public.) Isn’t that a little creepy?

  2. Bill Vague says:

    Can’t think why some people think it is odd that my young advisor shared a room with me. As a Yorkshire person I don’t like to spend. We had a nice walk after breakfast and I should tag his photos on Facebook. Should I de-friend the Daily Mail?

  3. Anonymous says:

    Should I get my photographs changed to make me look more attractive or at least remove the reb blotches? How far can you go before it is cheating?

  4. Anonymous says:

    It is my duty as a Christian parent to supervise my child. I do not like MySpace but tolerate it. I make sure I can see everything that she does there. I only allow am hour a day on the computer. This is the guide from our school. Many bad things on the Internet but it can be used for Gods purposes to promote the creation.

  5. Dr Mariann Hardey says:

    @Ken it’s good job its not concern about piracy me-hearty.
    Ahem, a longer and more considered reply to follow in my next post.

  6. Ken says:

    Bit concerned about privacy. I live in a neighbourhood watch area and regularly use my neighbours wifi network (wrong?) Can they see everything i’m up to on Facebook?

  7. Dr Mariann Hardey says:

    @Ian, I smell the whiff of the East-End. How is the chippy?

  8. Ian says:

    I’m outraged – she has no life I do not approve off. Mind you I’m not sure what Jane is up – been too tight with Denise who is a bad influence and not my friend. Janine is my friend but I’m hiding that form Jane. Have some photos to tag…

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