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#2073 truth, untruth and falsestarts

Friday 7th June, 2013

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Dear Dr M.

Met you at the launch of CRiVA*. I mentioned that I’m doing research into truth and falsehood. What is it about Facebook that means that deception is used as a power play in the lives and relationships of women?

Thanks, Anon, your fan and Descartes’s.

I remember our meeting well, as the sun dipped and there was sparkling wine on the lawn of St Mary’s College. I will meet all new fans like this from now on I’ve decided.

I too like the philosophical and historical works of Descartes (French: [ʁəne dekaʁt]; Latinized: Renatus Cartesius; adjectival form: “Cartesian”; 31 March 1596 – 11 February 1650) , though I cannot say with any certainty that I fully understand René’s accounts, but let us try here, no-one reads this anyway (shhh).

First of all realise that Facebook is not real. It is real, but it is not really real. Hence it is impossible to say with any certainty that friends will not deceive.  This is also true when not being on Facebook takes place and down the pub takes preference. All moments of deception and falsehood (obviously) involve some form or other of misdirection; being able to deceive and get away with it seems to evidence something ‘clever’. This cleverness against women involves forms of power.

As I think more about this over a rather fine espresso (you know from that place I go), it occurs to me that we should not be surprised if we do not understand the why people deceive.  And from this fact alone let us ruminate on the idea that whilst you and I may share this idea, others do not.  So now we are in the happy situation of any falsehood or deception being known and understood as it is interpreted by others. And on Facebook, by Friends.

You’ve gotta read this from Lauren Sessions. “You looked better on MySpace”.

It’s free. It’s lovely. It’s great.

Deceptively yours

Dr M.

*Centre for Research into Violence and Abuse CRiVA, University of Durham.

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