Proper Facebook Etiquette

#2126 no reasonable person…

Wednesday 11th February, 2015

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Dear Mariann,

No reasonable person would want to publish the intimate and physical details of their life for the entire world to read? Would they?

Lots of love from Marcel in Paraguay. xoxox

Marcel, I can’t tell (unless I impose the question mark) whether yours is a statement of fact (and a common one too, these being our digital times), or something more sophisticated? nay, even sinister…

Given the double question mark, I have a slight discomfort from your query. Are you anxious about forthcoming Cupid, or the power of Facebook love?  I’ve just this moment been reading the Washington University Law Review – you should give this one a go, it is marvellous, and a source that my students rather like too. 

Your words/anecdote remind me of an incident (of several recurring nights) involving a US Senator, a blogger and features in the  NYTimes and Washington Post’s respectively.  In this scenario (read these next words in hushed tones), in this scenario one woman made it BIG by posing for PlayBoy and landing a book deal with a $300,000 advance; all from the posting of her intimate physical, verbal, emotional and psychological details that also included His life.

And this just one-year after the launch of Facebook[1].  

According to one source the above also inspired 50-shaded-shadows-of-unsexy – a ‘win’ this weekend for anyone whose self-exploration must be to remain flaccid in a public place.

Marcel, you have a right to speak about your life, just as you do to switch off from friends in your Newsfeed. And you have the right to write and publish about it too.  There are serious problems when the appeal of lust and sexy is propelled forward by a very cumbersome set of yawn-inducing registers, but then what turns you on, isn’t likely to be the same as I. Thank goodness.

From your question, I am going to problematise the following for you:

i. ‘reasonable person’;

ii. ‘intimate’;

iii. ‘entire world’.

My proposition being that, by taking the moral high ground, you appear unreasonable; intimate for whom? (my turn to ask you a further question); and the entire world are not interested. One jot.

[1] Complaint 33, Steinbuch v. Cutler, No. 05-0970 (D.D.C. May 18, 2005) < You’re surprised I know my law. And I do.

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